Hi,
I don't give out a lot of compliments.
I've been raised in a more tough-love environment than a fake-supportive one. Moving to Los Angeles, I started noticing how life is full of senses. All of your senses are excited to be in this town (except for the 'sense of driving,' of course.) I noticed a flaw in that formula, however. People easily label things the wrong way simply because they have no other words to compensate for them.
When I walked to school in Baghdad daily, got shot at every once in a while (not targeted, just a random spray party drive-by some idiot thought he should do because he can get away with it) and walked back home safe, and then studied and went back to school the next day and aced a test, that is amazing.
A cricket walking past you and then flying is NOT amazing.
Sadly, with today's trends, no-obligations and no-commitments seem to be the trend. Yes, that, unfortunately, includes marriage. Do you know how two people choose to get together, sleep together, and then have kids together without getting married? That's what I'm talking about. The fact that those people truly believe that marriage has no value is the exact same thing as these bunches of artists that can't seem to control their emotions and just scream out "I'm an egomaniac and I'm broke!" There's nothing wrong with not getting married, but there's a lot wrong with not doing something and then turning into a professor about it, and then leaving a partner hanging in the end, and totally forgetting the first time they were so defensive about their whole "new-age" plan. Excuse my old-school-ness, because it barely exists in the first place, but I grew up seeing and believing that marriage was one of the most important steps in life - and where I'm from, divorce is not a very popular thing. Throughout everything, couples stayed together. Unlike today, where your partner wearing the wrong color flip-flops results in a divorce with lawyers nastier than a gang fight about the wrong colored flip-flops.
Two nights ago, I attended an art show. For the sake of the good people hosting it, let's call it an art show. I had a few good friends, very loyal and very humble, who were invited to showcase their work. With that, I visited to see some new pieces since I haven't been to a show for a while (I hate crowds). I was looking around when I met a young man who came by me as I looked at his work, and explained his biography, well, autobiography since he's telling it. Well, technically, it wasn't written so it wasn't either (excuse me while I go and punish myself by standing by the wall and staring at its corner. Just kidding. That isn't a punishment. That's one of my hobbies.) Okay, so this guy ends up talking and talking about why he changed his major and how he's so lucky to be showcasing his work that night and why his first major was bad and how the new major makes him more excited when he wakes up. I wanted to tell him to shut the fuck up. I'm blunt, but not rude. So I simply reminded him that I never asked. He seemed shocked. I'm sorry but I'm here to see art. I understand that you need to sell your work, but for you to shove your work down my throat and expect me to be appreciative of meeting your holiness is a bit ridiculous, especially when it starts feeling like a hostage situation more than a conversation.
All of that, sadly, comes from people who walk around, even on this gallery day, that aren't there for art. "Hey, nice work!"ing everyone and everything in front of them, they tend to boost a false sense of importance in these poor artists, who not only suck at what they do (at least for now, I hope,) but also take your words VERY seriously when your words are positive. Now, I know you weren't lying when you said "nice work," but you also need to understand that the same person you told that to needs that attention so much that they probably went around telling people HOW MANY PEOPLE LOVED THEIR WORK AND HE/SHE HAS POSSIBLE COLLABORATIONS WITH SAID PERSON AND WILL SOON DO THIS AND THAT. It's sad but true. A major part of the reason that happens is because they tend to put a good label on the things they want to hear. Just like when you read "low battery" on your phone you don't panic as much as you'd panic if your car battery died on you (not both at the same time, hopefully). That's because although the two are the exact same thing, their results are quite different. Don't give people anything to push their false sense of importance, or even entitlement at times, to that limit. Based on the information this guy provided me, I also know that he has a student loan the amount of a new house and he's here trying to sell his pieces, talking about his accomplishments in life. 0 sales, by the way, if you wanted to know the results.
I met another artist who didn't even act as if the work was his, and I had to ask if the work actually was his, and he nodded smiling. We had a small conversation and a very genuine one, might I add, that clearly showed his professionalism and humbleness. When I told him it was nice meeting him and tried leaving, he asked if I had any criticism for his work. An obnoxious girl replied from behind us "I wouldn't take a picture of a rusty train next time," to which I held myself back from saying the good-ol' phrase of "shut the fuck up, seriously, now!"
People need to hear about their flaws to keep going. Artists are supposed to listen to criticism and accept it and work it out. I'm not saying that every criticism is true, but it does deserve your attention. When you ignore the bad and keep going with the good, you're doing nothing but filling that hungry, hateful side of you with joy. That, just like salty chips, will fill you up, have you feeling satisfied, and then give you high blood pressure and a heart failure later on. It's neither a good meal nor a healthy one.
I'm an egomaniac by choice when it comes to my character. That's what I try to sell as the "Apo" character. Those who've seen me and talked to me know where I stand on that topic, though. In a very sarcastic manner, I tend to joke about my greatness, and within two sentences the jokes are gone and we're having a normal conversation. When it comes to false senses and people feeling like they're something they clearly are not because they bought a camera or a paint brush, however, it is a sad, sad thing our generation has to go through.
To your enjoyment, here are most, not all, of my favorite works of art showcased at this gallery event in downtown Los Angeles.